What Women Need to Know About Scorpio Men

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Scorpio man – what's he like in bed?

What Scorpio Men are Like in Bed as Told By a Scorpio Man

Are you a female hunting for information about a Scorpio man in bed? Trying to understand if your sign is a good match? Hoping to gain insight into these mysterious people? If the answer is yes, you've come to the right place.

That's because I am a Scorpio man. I've written this piece for women because I know there are a lot of ladies interested in this sign.

What you are about to get is the good, bad and ugly on Scorpio men. Not only will I share with you what we are like in bed,  I'll also give you details about being in a relationship with us.

Are you ready? Let's jump right in.

SCORPIO: October 23 – Nov 21

Element: Water

Planetary Rulers: Pluto and Mars

Most Compatible: Cancer, Pisces

Best for Business Partners: Taurus

General Traits

  • Loyal
  • Self-focused
  • Emotionally distant
  • Obsessive
  • Intuitive
  • Passionate
  • Competitive
  • Overly sensitive
  • Empathic
  • High sexual energy

Out of all of signs in the Astrological universe, Scorpio is perhaps the most mysterious and least understood.

It's also a highly sexual sign. Be forewarned, these are very aggressive men in the bedroom.

This comprehensive guide on the Scorpio man is designed to help you understand what a Scorpio man is like in bed, how he operates in relationships and, unique insight about dating.

Let's start with the basics.

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Scorpio is a fixed sign, which means he has strong opinions and you aren’t going to change them unless you can produce volumes of proof to the contrary.

Even then he probably thinks his way is best. He is a nonconformist and capable of completing really hard tasks.

He doesn’t really care what you think of him, he likes himself, and isn’t likely to change for you. It’s not that he disrespects you (although he might) he has a high moral code. But Scorpios are good at knowing their own limitations better than most.

He is not easily swayed. His emotions are also extremely intense, so intense that at times he can’t even figure them out, and has to take time to sort through his true feelings.

This is especially hard when he is younger, and gets better as he ages and knows himself better. But he is still a very private person, and chooses what he will reveal and who he will reveal it to.

A Scorpio is reserved and suspicious. He is blunt, although he seems to intuit how far to go with certain people. He has a very small circle of people who he really trusts and cares about. He is loyal, and will do anything to help any of the members of this special group.

Let’s pretend you had a brother who passed on.

A Scorpio will help you clean out your brother’s house, the one who was a hoarder, when all the rest of your friends suddenly have something else to do. He will go to the vet with you when your 15-year-old dog has to be put to sleep.

You are beyond fortunate to have one loyal friend like that in your life. If you do a kindness for a Scorpio, he never forgets it.

His generosity knows no bounds if you are someone he has decided to like. Yes, I do mean decided, he thinks about whether people are worth his time and energy, and if they are on his same wavelength.

Now, if you have disagreed with him enough, you will learn that Scorpio water is ice, and you have experienced the icy glare. It can shut you out in a second.

Don’t toy with his emotions or anything else. His sarcasm really stings and he will say anything to hurt you in the heat of the moment. 


One of the reasons you are reading this post is because you want to know a Scorpio man is like in bed. I’m going to level with you – they’re awesome. In fact, out of any sexual partner you will ever have, Scorpio men will be the one to rock your world.

Here’s why:

  • They exude sexual energy
  • Most Scorpio men have strong stamina
  • They are dominant and know exactly what they want
  • Because of their empathic abilities, they will know what you want
  • Sex can be intoxicating with Scorpio men so be careful

The reason sex with Scorpio is so intense is connected to this sign’s ruling planets. There are two of them.

One is Pluto, an icy cold planetoid pulls from one end. The other is Mars, a hot and dry celestial body that tugs from the other end.

Combined, you have positive and negative G forces that overwhelm the senses.

There’s an excellent article on dating a Scorpio man available by clicking the hypertext. The author goes into detail about the sexual phenomenon and personality of Scorpio guys. It’s a must read for anyone interested in sleeping with this powerful water sign.

If you decide to sleep with a Scorpio man, use caution. This sign will likely want seconds – and thirds – and will SHAG THE LIVING DAYLIGHTS OUT OF YOU.

Unsuspecting signs with little experience sleeping with Scorpio men are often left physically exhausted; with certain orifices sore and stretched. Read between the lines on that one.

And if two Scorpios get together, it's ridiculously powerful. In fact, it's so powerful that it might not be a good idea!



I’m going to level with you. You can’t change him. You can give him all the advice you want, and if he’s in a good mood, he will pretend to listen and then go on to do whatever he wanted in the first place. Learn to choose your battles with a Scorpio man.

Some things just aren’t worth it. Learn to agree to disagree. Memorize that or post it on your refrigerator.

He has a very low tolerance for people he doesn’t like, so see them on your own time.

If he’s annoyed at you, and tries to give you the icy glare, and you see he can’t do it, that means he loves you.

Related: What your zodiac sign says you are like in bed

Scorpio people have several identities. The good ones are the Eagles. These are the ones who manage to work their way to the top, no matter what field it is. They have a way of acting like team players; they have a lot of magnetism.

But don’t fall for that, they always end up as the leader in any endeavor they try. If it’s a band, he writes the music, and is the lead guitar player.

If it’s a company, he will head it or own it if he wants it. Scorpios may not always know what they want out of life, but they are positive what they don’t want.

They can be surprisingly sociable when they want to, even though they are very private people.

They will do whatever it takes to realize any important goal, and be successful. Being water signs, they have a strong streak of wanting to help others, or to make things better in any matter that is significant to them.

Then we get to the more difficult Scorpios. I know, you thought we already did that. They also have problems figuring out those complex feelings, and may try to mask that by drinking and doing drugs.

Or they may engage in many meaningless hookups, trying to make the pain and confusion hurt less. These are the snakes.

They are confused, but are also so charming; they can take you down with them if you let them. And it’s not easy to resist a Scorpio man. They are smart, well read and interested in a lot of things.

They have that sarcastic sense of humor which can be very funny. They know how to entertain. They have those beautiful, penetrating eyes that can read you like a book and make you feel they know your deepest secrets. (They do).

He can be the most tender and sweetest man you know. Some men don’t like to be called sweet, but a lot of are. So the snake Scorpio is the most dangerous. If he can pull himself together, you can have a nice relationship; or nice life together.

But he could range back and forth from being the Eagle to the Snake too, and that really complicates your life a lot if you care about him.

Sometimes it seems like he goes out of his way to be self destructive. If you love him, it’s a hard call whether to stay with him or not. But once you’ve known his Eagle side, chances are you will stay.

Last of all, he can be the Phoenix. Scorpios are very strong people, still waters run deep, and they have the most depth of all.

If life throws him the most unthinkable curve ball and everything in his life just falls apart, he has what it takes to recreate his whole life if he has to.

They just have more emotional strength than mere mortals, and in the midst of all that chaos, can make it all look easy. But it’s never easy to rebuild your life if everything in it goes wrong at once.

His perseverance and desire can help him get life back to normal.

Or more likely, he will regenerate it, and turn in a direction never imagined, changing everything and living a life that’s completely different.

This is the true Phoenix mode of the Scorpio man. He has the will to move mountains if that’s what it takes to overcome some kind of horrible disaster in his life. The power of the Phoenix is an amazing thing to behold.

So now you have met all the sides of the Scorpio male. You are standing at your calendar trying to figure out who’s birthday is between the third week of October and third week of November, and making sure you don’t know any.

Not so fast.

Scorpio men have so many good traits. Although they are generally serious people, they know how to have fun.

Even if you go out with what turns out to be the most boring crowd of people ever, he will try his best to do whatever it takes to make it a more tolerable experience for everyone.

He may not agree with everyone, but he’s open minded enough to listen, and knows when not to speak.


He is very good at saving money, and does his research when it comes to purchasing anything important.

Since the eighth house of Scorpio rules money of the partner, if you are a couple he will be the one to make investment and saving decisions, even if it seems he’s being too frugal for you at times. He often inherits money. And death does fascinate him.

He wants to figure out mysteries, and know what happens after we die. He’s ruled by Pluto, so that gives him a little darker side than most people have. When a topic interests him, he will read every book on it, and become an expert.

If he feels the pull towards a cause, he’s all in; he doesn’t do things half way. And of course, he’ll be the President of the group. Scorpios are very independent, so they can work with the group, but gradually they will be taking it over. And it will be so subtle that nobody notices.

It is just really hard to get close to a Scorpio. He keeps you at a distance with his sarcastic wit. He needs to lower his defenses.

He seems so cool because he feels things so intensely and is terrified of getting hurt. But you must understand when he makes a commitment to love; he is capable of great loyalty, just like in his friendships.

The more he’s been hurt, the more insecure he will be. This is why he is notorious for being jealous and has control issues.

He’s no Peter Pan, he’s very independent, and would rather be alone than with someone with whom he has to compromise his principles. He will approach you slowly and carefully.

The best way to deal with him is to offer constant reassurance, and if it turns to love, constant assurance of your love. You don’t feel emotions as strongly as he does, and he’s also always analyzing things. Yes, even in relationships.

Scorpios are very psychic. They can feel something is going to happen before it does. He has great intuition, and does best when he listens to it.

He is usually drawn to the people who will be important in his life, just as they will be drawn to him. He reads people really well, so he’ll know all your secrets, but may keep a lot of his to himself. It depends. If the two of you stay close, you will experience telepathy.

The keywords to Scorpio are “I desire.” And there is a tremendous force to a Scorpio person’s love.

It may take a lot of time for him to trust you enough to let you in. But if he does, make sure you don’t take it lightly, enter into a relationship with him with good intentions.

If he’s in snake mode, you’ll be able to tell right away, then step back a bit and see what happens before you get too involved.


Scorpios are jealous and possessive when in love. But there’s something protective about that too, a quality that being a water sign brings out. You have to teach him to trust you. When you have sex with a Scorpio, it’s no holds barred as long as both agree.

They want to get as close to you as possible, as deep as they can, making complete contact. They want to find new and pleasurable ways to pleasure their bodies that have not yet been realized, especially with you.

I don’t what it is about water signs and sex in the water, it’s a miracle there aren’t more drowning accidents that way.

But Scorpios are Professors in this field, always willing to find out more, learning about themselves and their bodies. Take a hike and try under a waterfall, just watch out for slippery wet plants.

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Don’t forget Scorpios are very spiritual people too, and when you combine that with sex, you can have truly amazing experiences that you won’t ever forget.

Everybody doesn’t get to that point; where two merge until it feels like they are just one, but a water sign person will get you there.  But Scorpios do take sex seriously and see it as a path to spiritual oneness.

He’s ruled by Pluto, so that gives him a little darker side than most people have. As the French say, “un petit mort” when they speak of orgasms, for him each time it’s like he’s being reborn again.

And that’s great, usually afterwards people have a great amount of energy (enough to start over again)!


Scorpios are exhibitionists for such private people, and sometimes get outlandish with public sex. Some of them have past life memories of being chastised for enjoying their bodies.

So they may have to act out more. They are always looking for new ways to feel intense pleasure.

But he wants a relationship too, as long as he’s an Eagle. Even if it goes through some hard times, he isn’t one to just walk away. He will want to talk everything out and see what can or should be done to save things. He doesn’t give away his feelings lightly, and when he has, he will fight to keep you. But if you ever hurt him that much, he will walk away from you once and never look back.

But any Scorpio will always have those deep emotions, and they can’t be kept held in. He’s also very creative, and outlets like playing an instrument, writing, poetry, painting, drawing or even home improvement projects are ways to get some of that out.

Scorpios are great at taking recycled things and repurposing them for other uses, and can make some really great and unique pieces for the house.

They may enjoy going to flea markets and buying cheap stuff, and then making something beautiful from it. He generally has a lot of energy, and now and then will just sleep or be really lazy for a whole day.

About 5 yrs. ago, there was talk of a thirteenth Astrology sign called Ophiuchus. It cut into the days where Scorpios are born, and only allowed 9 birthdays for Scorpios.

It turned out that the ancient Babylonians discovered this body in the sky near the celestial equator long ago, and turned out to be nonsense.


What kinds of jobs are good for Scorpios? Firefighters (another obsession), detectives, scientists, doctors, psychiatrists and therapists would all work.

All are jobs where you get to see how the human mind and body work, except for the fireman. Whatever he does, he does with his characteristic intensity and great effort. These are very bold and brave men.

Another unusual fact about Scorpios is that if a Scorpio in a family dies, another one is born into the family pretty quickly. I have experienced this myself.

Most Scorpios can be compatible with Earth signs, or the sign next to them. It depends, each planet is in an astrology sign, so that’s a general rule of thumb.

But the most compatible signs in the areas of romance and sex tend to be other water signs. That means Cancer and Pisces. It’s not always a good match, particularly if two Scorpios get together. But generally speaking, Scorpios match well with water.

So do you know a Scorpio you are interested in? They are complicated people, but he’s not an average person either. My Mom used to say, “Why be boring when you can be original?” You will go through some emotional storms, but storms come to an end.

You have to be strong too or your personality won’t stand up to his. But who has such passion and loyalty? Or how do you find someone with that sly wit and willingness to try anything? Go ahead, take a chance.

I hope what I've shared here reveals the information you need about getting with a Scorpio man.

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Dirk is a shaman and spiritual healer. He borrows from ancient wisdom and lore to teach lessons about the self, personality, relationships and health. When he's not writing, he enjoys spending time outdoors.